Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Orange Crush=OCD?

Ok...got our first clue yesterday from Bonnie at Quiltville. And I went into OCD mode and had to finish it in record time. I just loved the last mystery and tried so hard to maintain my composure about the new one. I failed. I got myself all excited about it the moment the clue was posted. Now, it's the sit and wait for the next clue. I should load up my Number 2 from the UFO list today and finish that one and be done with it. I just might.....
On the non quilty front, I'm trying to use the "love and logic" system with my daughter. We had a couple of days of 50 degree weather last week and naturally the 15 year old, know everything, teenager in my house thought that gave her the ok to wear shorts, no sleeves, you know how they are. I thought my head would explode while I sat back and said nothing. I let her do it. I knew she'd end up sick, but I was avoiding the usual teenage look and attitude that says "You know nothing, old woman". And now, she's so sick. Got herself a monster cold. And, I refuse to baby her. I pointed out that she did it to herself and perhaps she needed to make more appropriate choices for the weather when she dresses herself. She's completely thrown that there is no baby-ing going on and she's sick. I'm a hovering parent. I bring aspirins, make homemade chicken noodle soup, make a bed on the couch, give the remote, and hover over the sick child. But, not this time. So, do you think any of this will make a difference in her choices next time? Maybe not.....but at some point they need to make some decisions on their own..... Letting your child make the wrong choices is the hardest thing in the world to do.

14 comments:

Amelia said...

Love is hard and sometimes has to be tough. She is learning decisions (good or bad) have results.

Amelia in Oklahoma

Kristie said...

I knew it!!!! As soon as I saw your blog on my Bloglines I knew you had it finished!!!! I don't even have my fabrics or my strips cut!!! Actually, I think I have maybe the blue and black in my stash!

My boys do the same thing, sometimes it is hard not to run to their rescue all the time.
Kristie

Moneik said...

Parents have to let their kids make their own mistakes. I bet she'll learn her lesson.

Carol Van Rooy said...

As children,we probably tested the rules as well. Stick by your guns, and she will learn the value of a making better decisions... I'm sure.

Beth said...

Oh I'm right next to you quilting AND parenting! Our middle kid is epileptic and when he moved out , he had seizures every 4-5 months or so. When he has one, he cannot drive unless he is seizure free for THREE MONTHS..so here was mommy driving him to work. He is steadily taking more responsibility for things...cell phone, car insurance, health insurance. Meanwhile, I have a HUGE hole in my tongue from BITING it so many times! Who is tough love harder on? US!! Hang in there..and sew as needed!

Gina said...

It is hard to see your teen make mistakes but in the end it will be a good lesson for her.
Alot of my friends think I'm too hard on gemma but she is growing into quite an independant (in a good way) young lady, whereas my friend's teens seem still to be very babyish.
One of my friend's still dresses her 13 yr old to make sure she gets ready in time!

best of luck for the next battle

love and hugs xxx

Suzan said...

But you still have to let them figure it all out. Parenting is not for sissies!

Regina said...

And my little guy is 3 - I have a lot of tongue biting and tough love ahead...

Can't wait to see the next Orange Crush step - I decided I had too many irons in the fire to do it, but I love Bonnie's patterns.

Maureen said...

Love your Orange Crush quilt so far...wish I was more of a get it done right away person...just not happening at my house riggt now.

I hope your daughter learns her "lesson"...not being a mom other than a doggie mom...I have no advice. I can understand from your daughter's perspective as I was testing limits when I was young (now at 40 don't think I test my mom too much).

On a different note...next time I am sick I plan on getting on a plane or my car and getting to your house because the homemade chicken soup sounds heavenly and the pampering does too! ;-)

Tracy said...

Great job getting step 1 done! I love your four patches.

I think your daughter will remember next time it is cold what to wear. A very important lesson from a good Mom:)

Lymryk Quilts Cats and Portuguese Water Dogs said...

Love your step 1.

Phyl said...

I so agree with your statement,"Letting your child make the wrong choices is the hardest thing in the world to do." Rest assured that you are doing the absolute best thing you could do for her...hugs.

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Jana said...

I have to laugh....I just took my own daughter into the clinic to get a throat culture. Same thing with her---shorts, silly shoes, no coat---snow. Now she's "dying" from a sore throat.

I'm still trying to sew my 4 patches together....here I thought I would be so fast but am now glad Bonnie is holding out until next for the next clue!

Katie said...

Love your OC fabrics! :-)