Friday, July 10, 2009

Welcome to sixth grade!

So ... here is a story....
I have two online friends. Actually, I have more than two, but this is about two. They had a disagreement. Fine. We're all suppose to be adults. One of them, let's call her #1, didn't say a word about it to me. The other, #2, texted me and was immediately going to end all connections with 1. We have all been in an online group for quite some time. Now....I, being an adult and no longer in sixth grade, simply told 2, that I thought it was a bad choice. I suggested she take some time and let it all pass and basically get over it. Now a couple of weeks have gone by. I, minding my own business, get a text a couple of mornings ago stating that she had a "tally" going and was I not speaking to her either? HUH? Again, I'm no longer in Junior High. My response? "Excuse me? what did I do?" Emails went back and forth, and I was informed that she could no longer continue this discussion and if all I wanted to do was that, then ...blah blah blah...... I do not want to discuss some ridiculous, childish imagined slight with this woman any longer. I didn't even bring it up. She did. I think it's sad that she can't see past her own selfishness. I wouldn't have even known about a problem had she not told me....over and over.

So....the point of all this? To all my online friends: I think the world of each of you! Some of you, I have gotten to meet in person and I'm so grateful for that. But...here's the deal. I'm an adult. I don't have time or the energy for the she said this or that, she defriended me, she didn't agree with me crap. I think those of us with families, husbands, children, have a clearer idea of where this blogging part of our lives goes. It's not foremost in my life, but I do enjoy it. I'm never going to be the person who will just agree with someone to keep them as my friend. Friends disagree, argue, and it's ok. We are inconsiderate with one another sometimes, knowing full well, that a true friendship will survive that and more.

That's my take on all this nonsense. I think it was blown way out of proportion and I hope since 2 has decided to sever ties with our group that this will be the end of it. Live and learn.......

18 comments:

Suzan said...

Damn! I miss out on all the good drama :) !! Take a deep breath and eat some chocolate. It makes EVERYTHING better!!

piecesofpatti said...

I am in on the CHOCOLATE! I am all about CHOCOLATE! It does make EVERYTHING better!! I think I will go find some now!!!!!!

Kim said...

6th grade indeed......
oh how I find these disagreements so painful. It was back in 6th grade and hurts just as much as I near 60!
Why can't we agree to be imperfect and try to hold each other up?

Back to my machine where I can't hurt anyone's feelings :0)

Happy Sewing,
Kim

Cindy said...

If you all want chocolate go for it but right now I'm thinking it's noon somewhere in the world and I could use a drink after reading all of this. Well said......

Moneik said...

I'm up for starting drinking now!

Trish said...

ROTFL... Where do you find these people? Wait, no, don't tell me!!! I don't need to know.....hahaha...
and since you don't drink.... I will have one (or two) for you! (Yup, that's what friends are for)

Trish said...

Hey, I was just thinking.... since you don't drink and you no longer smoke... you're practically a saint now.... LOL

Linda said...

I agree with the Chocolate idea! Since some of the students I work with are sixth graders-it all sounds familiar! However, with 6th graders after a few days of not talking they are back to being best friends!
Since I don't drink or smoke either I would go for a good smoothie at one of our local coffee shop/cafes--Alley Cats or Potter's Shed! Care to join me?

Cindy said...

Oh my gosh Trish is right........Saint Regina one I

Moneik said...

Yep I have to agree St. Regina 1I!

piecesofpatti said...

Oh come on! Regina a Saint! I hang with her, I know better!

Joyce said...

Well said! Sorry you were put in the middle of this.

Carol VR said...

Well well, it's nothing to be ashamed of if you had of failed sixth grade numerous times...LOL

Piwacket said...

Regina, I have declared myself Switzerland, and everyone knows that Swiss chocolate is the best!

Barb said...

I somehow found myself right smack in the middle of one of those 6th grade dramas with a group of mommies a few years back. It's just not fun.

Delia Sews said...

I am enjoying these comments! Life is too short to worry about the small stuff. Count me in for a drink. Enjoy life!

Sara said...

In our house we say "That is SO Jr High". (both my boys are in Jr. High), but I hear ya! I love my online friends, and while lately I have not been the best at keeping up, I do love meeting and catching up with everyone. Life needs to be lived!

Regina said...

I never read comments before I post a comment but I did today. Since I don't care for chocolate and am not much of a drink, if I had to pick then I will go for something fruity, slushy, and with a hint of something that will make me giggle.

Well, over here in WI I have found my 38 year old self smack dab in the middle of one of those 6th grade spats and it is the pits!!!!!